…Something happened, and you don’t feel good about it, but hey, no one made you go to the party, or drink that much, or go to that room, or…. And did you really drink that much? Or did you get far more intoxicated than you usually do? Is it possible that someone slipped you a roofie? What really happened??…
There are times when a student just isn’t sure if what happened was sexual misconduct or not. It may have started out as consensual sex, but then things got out of hand. Or it may be that that the student drank excessively and simply can’t remember what happened, or blacked out.
At times like these, it is easy to move to a place of self-doubt and to blame yourself for whatever happened. It’s easier to deal with the guilt and embarrassment of a “bad hookup” than to consider the possibility that you were just sexually assaulted by someone who took advantage of you and violated you terribly.
Whatever your experience, and regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or whether you feel your experience meets the definition of sexual assault
, you deserve to be cared for and supported. It is not necessary for you, or for others, to label your experience as sexual assault in order for you to receive medical and emotional care. The university has resources available
to tend to your medical and emotional needs, to discuss what happened with you, and to review your options with you. Seeking support can help you to make sense of your experience and to figure out what your next steps will be.